Hi I apologize if I am not doing this correctly...don't want to hijack another's thread but from what I understood of the rules, I should post my similar situation in a like thread.
I too am having the same problem, jdownloader will work perfectly for over 24 hours and then all of a sudden it will get stuck on "connecting".
The problem started June 8th (don't know if that corresponds to a significant jdownloader update) when all of a sudden I noticed my actiontec router had failed and jdownloader at the time was stuck on connecting. I ended up having to replace the router with a new actiontec pk5000. Since then I have been having the issue at least once every day...usually more often.
I have read through a number of threads with similar issues and tried those suggestions. I am running 1.6.0_17-b04 JRE. I also have AVGfree 9.0.829 with the Active Search Shield and Active Surf Shield disabled. In the AVG resident shield I have also excluded files C:\Program Files\JDownloader\*.* and C:\Program Files\Java\jre6\bin\*.* (I am not sure if this is the port 80 others have mentioned). I haven't yet tried uninstalling and reinstalling AVGfree.
I also have ZoneAlarm and have all jdownloader and java functions allowed. I have even tried running jdownloader with ZoneAlarm shutdown with the same error occurring.
I mainly download from RS but I have seen the problem arise while simultaneously downloading from SharingMatrix and RS. In this case SharingMatrix got stuck but RS continued on as normal. Also my max connections are 1 and max downloads 2.
The only thing that I have tried that seems to have an affect is to increase jdownloader's "First ip check wait time" to 10 seconds. If I use 10 seconds it will go much longer between instances whereas if I use 5 seconds it happens every several hours.
I have also observed that every time the stuck on connecting appears, it has completed a reconnection and then gets stuck while trying to connect to the host. This together with the First ip check delay makes me wonder if the issues is jdownloader is trying to connect to the host before the connection is complete.
Here is my log
http://jdownloader.org/pastebin/4844
Thank you in advance for any assistance...this has been a very frustrating experience. Life's a nice guy without my jdownloader.